gleeful grandiva

keeping the glam in gran

Category: (Grand)parenting (Page 2 of 4)

TAMURIA’S A – Z OF MANNERS – A HAPPY GUIDE

MANNERS PICTURE

 

I could feel my mood darkening along with the skies as I sat in the grandstand watching my favourite football team play.

Well, actually I was trying to watch but it was a challenge as a group of spectators had decided to stop in the aisle, right in front of my view of the field, and have a conversation.

I had already been hit in the head by some woman’s handbag as she squeezed past the row of seats behind on a mission to buy food.

There were wet patches on my jeans where my drink had slurped over the top of my glass as someone in my row jostled past me.

I’m pretty sure our row contained the world’s hungriest and thirstiest people. Or maybe they just had weak bladders. Either way, sitting at the end of the row meant there was no respite and the action inevitably coincided with action on the field that I missed in an effort to move and avoid having my feet squashed. Wasn’t anyone here to actually watch the game?

Somehow I managed to hold my tongue, keep a (near) smile (maybe it was more a grimace) on my face and go on to watch my team make a stunning win.

It had me thinking, though. How easily we can get fed up and angry when people are so thoughtless and how different the world would be if more people followed  the simple rules of good manners.

 

Read More

WHY I GAVE MY GRANDDAUGHTER THE GIFT OF SADNESS

the rose and the thon, and sorow and gladness, are linked togethe5

 

It’s not something we want for our loved ones. It’s not something we want for anyone.

When people are sad, our first urge is to take their sadness away, make them happy again.

When the people around us are happy they are giving out positive energy, which we benefit from. Our consciousness is not tormented with the feelings of helplessness, guilt, and frustration that sadness inspires.

There are countless books, courses, and articles celebrating happiness while sadness gets hidden away in the dark corner – something to be ashamed of, something to deny and never share.

It is what makes talking openly about mental illnesses associated with sadness so difficult. It is why so many suffer alone.

What if we celebrated sadness?

Read More

HOW TO BURST THE BUBBLE AND EMBRACE THE SCRAPES

 

burst the bubble picture

Parenting with moderation seems to be one of the biggest problems for mums and dads these days.

We are constantly fed a diet of fear. Fear our kids will succumb to the latest germ. Fear our kids will be kidnapped or abused. Fear about how they eat, how they sleep, how they walk and talk.

This feeling is reinforced with government regulations about child proof bottle lids to keep them safe from poison and gates, designed to keep kids in. There are even some schools that forbid kids to do cartwheels and handstands for fear of injuries.

With all this fear comes the urge to wrap those precious people in bubble wrap to protect them from all the possible dangers.

The problem with bubble wrap is you can’t spread your wings.

Read More

IMAGINATION STATION – WHAT WILL YOU BE TODAY?

If you could be anything or anyone today, what would it be?

Come on, close your eyes and think about it.

Would you be a beautiful fish swimming around the coral in the Great Barrier Reef?

A mighty eagle, soaring above the land, a tiny fairy (I did say ANYTHING), sprinkling pixie dust and granting wishes?

 

imagination station picture

A famous actor, an astronaut, a brain surgeon, a leaf – what would you choose?

When you close your eyes and think about it, you are using one of our most wonderful tools – imagination.

This is the key reason dress-up play is so important, but there are lots of other benefits too – read on.

Read More

10 REASONS YOU NEED TO COOK WITH YOUR KIDS

You know it’s going to be messy. You pray they don’t sneeze into the mixing bowl. You understand the patience of a saint will be required just to make a simple snack.

But the benefits of cooking with your kids far outweigh the mess and stress. This is one of the most important activities to share with children as we all need to eat.

We may get through life without ever painting that canvas we had planned, or knitting a scarf, but we won’t get through life without food.

cooking with kids picture

We may not all become chefs, but if we are taught at an early age to understand food – where it comes from, what it does, we are more likely to make wise eating choices later in life.

Read More

HOW TO ENRAGE A MOB (Mother of Boys)

mob pictue

Enraging any mother is pretty easy. Just say something rotten about her kids and you’ll wish you were being gored by a bull or clawed by a bear – the pain would be less.

This fierce protection starts in the womb and increases to a point of touchiness that would put a snowflake’s sensitivity to shame.

For some of us, sanity prevails (usually when the kids are teenagers) and we eventually realize our kids are human and therefore come with a few eensy weensy faults.

All the same, we mothers NEVER like to hear negative stuff about our kids.

MOBS (mothers of boys) have their own special sensitivity points, added to the general ones all mums share.

This is a practical guide on what NOT to say to a MOB – whether you are a friend, loved one or stranger.

Read More

HOW TO HELP YOUR KIDS KEEP SELF LOVE ALIVE

self love picture

 

There are so many articles on self-love at the moment and it strikes me this is not a new skill to be learned, but more like a forgotten art.

Consider babies and children – their absolute fascination with their bodies, even the things their bodies produce, shows a lack of the disgust we adults often feel for ourselves.

We look in the mirror and listen to the outburst of our inner bully telling us we are too old, too fat, too thin, too whatever.

A child looks in the mirror and smiles and laughs in delight.

 

self love picture

We were once those smiling children, delighted to see our own reflections.

How did we lose the art of self-love?

Read More

HOW A BABY MADE ME FIND MY CALM

 

calm picture

 

It’s no secret that children can often be our best teachers but it comes as a surprise that a five-month-old baby is teaching me something no one else has been able to.

Our newest little Goddess is teaching me how to calm myself – from the inside out.

Perhaps it helps she is not yet able to talk.

I recently saw a thing on Facebook that said; “never in the history of calming down has anyone calmed down by being told to calm down”. Truer words have never been spoken.

Read More

 HOW TO GET YOUR MUMMA MOJO BACK WITH ONE LITTLE WORD

 

mojo picture

It rolls off your tongue like honey off a spoon when your kids are little.

“No, you cannot use the sharpest knife, or any knife in the kitchen to cut those vegetables,” we tell our three-year-old.

“No, you cannot climb to the top shelf of that high bookshelf to see what the view is like.”

“No, you cannot hit your sister in the face because she played with your toy.”

We get so used to using that tiny word to protect our kids and to teach them acceptable behaviour that it comes out without us even registering it.

Some studies claim many parents resort to using that word up to 400 times a day!

Time passes, the kids grow up and, hopefully, more responsible, and we parents say it less and less.

Then one day we realize we’ve forgotten how to say it.

Read More

11 SURVIVAL TIPS FOR TAMING TERRIBLE TANTRUMS

You can see glimpses…the cherub face contorts for seconds at a time giving you a preview of the hell to come.

The tiny body stiffens, the voice gets louder and before you know it you are witnessing the massive meltdown indicative of the ‘terrible twos’.

terrible tantrums picture

The thing is, many people coast through the moods of a two-year-old without any battle scars – claiming victory in parenthood.

Then three hits, and WHAM, they get the full force of what they’ve been missing.

I remember Hubby and I thinking we must be truly marvelous parents as our first born seemed to sail through the ‘terrible twos’ – not realizing that three was, in fact, The Perfect Storm.

Read More

Page 2 of 4

Powered by WordPress & Theme by Anders Norén