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Just when you think it is safe to reclaim your home, along come the grandkids.

It’s not always easy for us grandparents, who have not had to think about safety locks on cupboards, or the dangers of low-lying glass ornaments, for years.

We may have been revelling in the enjoyment of being able to put things where we want to without these concerns. Not to mention the absolute joy of a house that stays clean for longer than 24 hours.

It can be easy to overlook the dangers, to our property and tiny hands and feet, of carelessly placed treasures.

The thing about grandkids is that they come to you having learned a different set of rules.

You may have had a tighter rein on the impact your own small children made on your home. Of course, you can choose to have strict rules regarding what your grandchildren can and cannot do while at your house.




However, for me and many of the grandparents I know, not having to discipline children too much is one of the greatest joys of grandparenting. At last, we can be the fun ones in their lives – the friends and mentors, instead of the disciplinarians we had to be as parents.


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That takes some creative thinking, though, if you don’t want your home, and your treasures trashed.

I remember postponing purchasing a new lounge until our teenage sons flew the coup. It was supposed to be the payoff for dealing with the empty nest syndrome.

The theory was that it would look good for longer without careless teenagers and their friends constantly spilling drinks or leaving lidless markers on it.

Grandkids, even more than my own children, have taught me to let go of my attachment to the material things and design a life, and a home, that is people (particularly children) friendly.




This is a good thing too as, within weeks of that lounge being delivered, one of the Goddesses vomited all over it.

Shortly after that, there was a mishap with a leaking nappy.




More recently that very same (newish) lounge received the added embellishment of a big, dark stain, caused (we think) by a lidless marker that somehow made its way into the lounge room.

The Goddesses know that markers do not belong in the lounge room. I do have some rules. But they also know the rules at Grandy’s house are not that strict unless physical injury is a fear.

I showed the mark to the Goddesses and I could hear their fathers’ intake of breath as I did this. They were waiting for me to get mad. When I didn’t, they looked at me as if they were wondering who had kidnapped their mother and put an imposter in her place. I often get this look from them when dealing with the Goddesses.

This (not so little) stain on the lounge would have been cause for a major mumma meltdown, back in the day.

I don’t feel guilty about this. I was teaching my sons the importance of caring for what they have and trying to ensure they didn’t become part of a disposable society where carelessness and neglect lead to rubbish and replacement.

Grandparenting brings about a gentler approach when guiding the little ones towards wise choices.

Perhaps this is because we are not burdened with the responsibility of disciplining and are less likely to be personally judged for our grandkids’ behaviour.


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So I turned the lounge cushion over, so you can’t see the stain and gently reminded the Goddesses to keep the markers out of the lounge room.

I try, as much as possible, to supervise the kids when they are using art supplies, such as markers. But as any parent, or grandparent who regularly looks after the kids, will tell you, you need eyes in the back of your head to avoid disasters.

You could be changing a nappy on the baby, or taking a little one to the toilet when her older sister decides it would be fun to draw while sitting on the lounge.




Now we are planning a kitchen upgrade. I want to replace the tiles with a splashback. We did some research and found a company that offered composite splashbacks and had them send us a sample.

It was exciting as the claim was that they cost around a third of the price of glass splashbacks.

When the sample arrived I gently pressed a pen to it to test for scratching. It scratches easily.

So when we started getting quotes and one of the kitchen people was all for the composite splashbacks, I explained how that wouldn’t be practical with the Goddesses as one, or more, of them was sure to want to decorate by drawing a smiley face on it while I was busy elsewhere.

The kitchen guy said; “Well, don’t let them”. Clearly, he has never babysat more than one child at a time. He didn’t get the job.

When the first little Goddess was tiny, I remember telling anyone who would listen that I had no intention of rearranging my home to suit grandchildren. 🙂 Read my post, Coping with Kiddie Chaos to see my complete reversal on that stance.

I rarely make a decorating decision these days without first considering what impact the Goddesses will have on it.




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Any ornament you consider dangerous (like glass that could break and cut tiny hands) or super precious, should be displayed up high. You will find this gets challenging as the grandkids get older and taller. Some may even resort to climbing on chairs to get to out of reach treasures, so diligence is always needed.

Having a toy box to keep some fun activities in is a must. You don’t have to resort to an entire toy room, as I have, but you will find the kids look forward to playing with the special toys that are only at your place.

Have a basic craft box. You will be so pleased you have this when the weather is bad and you need a new distraction. Just watch out for those markers!

Get your grandkids involved in gardening by giving them their own little space, if possible. This gets them out of the house and gives them an appreciation for nature. Read my post, 7 Reasons You Need to be Gardening with Kids.

If you are planning to babysit on a regular basis (especially if sleepovers will be involved), consider setting aside a room just for them. The Goddesses love that they have their own room at Grandy’s. It’s a safe, familiar place for them to sleep during naps and sleepovers and a wonderful place to cover the walls in their artwork.

I have learned that the many safety items on the market, such as cupboard locks, are more of a hassle for me than a deterrence to the kids. They worked wonders with my own tiny tots, but I don’t have care of the Goddesses constantly enough to justify their annoyance to me. There is no substitute for careful supervision (says the lady with the giant marker stain on her lounge). 🙂

Above all, remember there are bound to be mishaps – breakages, stains – but in the end, it’s just stuff and the memories you are making and the legacy you are leaving is so much more important.

Happy memory-making and have a gleeful week, Tamuria.


  • Every time I read your posts, I think what a huge gift you are to your grandkids. And how helpful this is to others who have small children visiting, whether now and then or often!
    Now, can you help me baby proof my home for 13 Labrador puppies? 🙂

    • Haha, sorry, Susan, no tips for the puppies. I’m flat out dealing with a very old pooch who doesn’t always make it to her toilet these days. I do hope this helps those who deal with little kids, though. Sometimes it’s all about perspective.

  • Your memories are truly your jewels, and I am pleased with the way you handled the situation concerning the marker in the lounge. That was a good lesson to the kids.

  • Your blogs are always so inspiring! For my granddaughter I have wicker baskets that look great in my living room and are filled with fun activities for Grace. Mostly though I take her places she can run and jump like the river or a jumpy place.

    Now I have a grand-dog. That’s another issue!

    • Oh yes, I’ve had the fun (not) of grand dogs too. 🙂 Some of the best times I have with the Goddesses are when we are out and they have the freedom to run and jump. Thank you for your kind words, Candess.

  • Reading this reminds me of when I first had my daughter. All the advise on how to ‘baby proof’ my home and of course I did them all! The amazing part was my daughter was not a messy child and didn’t do the ‘things’ we often hear kids do. We did have a white leather couch, I remember, which we were concerned about, but we covered it with a hand-made afghan my mother crochet for us. Now my daughter lives with me again with her 3 animals and that is a whole other issue. I will have to re carpet areas of my home for sure when the cats move out. It’s interesting what considerations we joyfully make for our children and their animals. The experiences and memories made for us and for them is always more important than the messes that may happen! I know your grandchildren are your joy and you theirs, so any of the things you’ve had to do, are more than worth it!

    • I feel your pain re the pets, Beverley. We had a couple of grand-dogs who destroyed our garden and made our wooden floorboards look like shag carpet. The things you do for love, right?

  • Man, I have heard the saying that some folks wish that they had grandchildren first.. and man.. I have many regrets with my kids.. and I wish I had more patients with them back then. You are doing amazing things.

    • I think it’s almost impossible for parents to have the patience they want to with their kids, Kristen. We all lose it sometimes. That’s why grandparents are so important. By the time you get to the grandparenting stage, you tend to be calmer and more accepting, even of the mishaps.And of course, you have the luxury of not being judged by what the kids do and if you are, you don’t care.

  • My mother was definitely more lax with my kids than she was with myself and my sisters and brothers. And my kids had such a wonderful time with her. I’m nowhere near having grandkids yet, but I imagine I’ll be the same way.

  • Whenever I look at the design magazines, I fall in love with different things I would like to do in the house. But, reality brings me up short. The first question is how cat proof is it? I would like to re-do the floor in wood, but I thinkI’m opting for porcelain tile with an imitation wood surface. Choices alway have to defer to someone else, but what would life be without the little ones.

    • Haha, true, we often have to consider our pets as well as kids when making design choices, Joyce. and you’re right, what would life be without the little ones?

  • Sonya Kolodziejska

    March 28, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    I still have young kids, so i am not in that safe zone yet. But a great post and your grandkids are blessed to have you as their grandmother.

  • These are great tips for loving grandparents. It is like honoring your house to be a safe haven for the elders and the young ones to have a common bond. Awesome!

  • I can imagine the house-wide scanning for potential dangers one must do before little ones arrive–especially when that household does not have children. I would be an emotion wreck if I had to baby-proof my house and would definitely need a list.

  • Watching my parents and my brothers’ children, I think it is generally so that you are less severe with you grandchildren than you perhaps were with your own children. You seem to have a healthy philosophy for how to handle the situation. 🙂

  • I love this so very much, Tamuria. I wish I had grand kids. I am thankful I know you and benefit from your terrific advice here. It’ll make my creativity with my grandkids better when I am blessed with them! I DO have a 10 month old granphew who I adore and can’t wait to do more creative things with.

    I agree with you that making memories is the ONLY thing we end up taking with us. I’m a firm believer in creating great memories. Thanks for your inspiring ideas.

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